The Harder Path.

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At some point, we all arrive at a crossroads.

We know there is a decision to make. And somewhere deep down, we often know which path we should take.

The problem is, it isn't always the easier one.

Sometimes the right path comes with discomfort, uncertainty, conflict and sleepless nights. The other path offers something incredibly tempting: relief.

It makes the problem go away.

At least for now.

But I've learned something about those decisions. The choice that brings us the most comfort today can sometimes become the one that sits heaviest with us years later.

I know because I've made both.

There have been times in my life when I chose the difficult path because I believed it was the right thing to do. And there have been other times—particularly when I was younger—when I chose what was easier, safer or better for me.

I'm not particularly proud of some of those decisions.

But I understand them better today.

I wasn't always confident in who I was. I didn't like conflict. I didn't want to disappoint people. I was afraid of struggle, and sometimes I simply wanted the discomfort to go away.

So I chose accordingly.

And sometimes it worked.

The problem disappeared. Life moved forward.

But getting rid of discomfort and making the right decision are not necessarily the same thing.

It has taken me a long time to understand that.

What Struggle Has Taught Me

Over the past several years, I've deliberately put myself through some difficult things.

I've run and cycled thousands of kilometres across this country. I've pushed my body and mind far beyond places I once believed were my limits. More recently, that journey has moved inward as I've spent thousands of hours studying neuroscience, psychology, philosophy and Buddhist wisdom in an attempt to better understand my own mind.

And through all of it, one lesson keeps showing up:

Growth rarely happens when we continually choose comfort.

It happens when we are willing to move toward the things that challenge us.

That doesn't mean we should deliberately make our lives difficult. Nor does it mean the hardest choice is automatically the right one.

Sometimes walking away is the courageous choice.

Sometimes saying no is.

Sometimes staying is.

Sometimes leaving is.

The question isn't simply:

Which choice is harder?

Perhaps the better question is:

Which choice moves me closer to the person I want to become?

I think that distinction matters.

Because our decisions don't just determine what happens next.

Over time, they shape who we become.

A Lesson From My Hero

I've spoken many times about one of my heroes, Terry Fox.

For 143 days during the Marathon of Hope, Terry essentially faced a decision every morning.

Keep going or stop.

His body hurt. The weather could be miserable. He was exhausted. And he was running a marathon a day on an artificial leg while cancer had already taken part of his body.

Yet each morning, he kept moving forward.

Not because suffering itself was noble.

But because something mattered to him more than his own comfort.

He had decided who he wanted to be and what he wanted his life to stand for.

Most of us will never face anything remotely like Terry faced. Hopefully we never will.

But we do face smaller versions of that choice all the time.

Tell the truth when it would be easier not to.

Have the conversation we've been avoiding.

Stand beside someone when doing so costs us something.

Admit we were wrong.

Walk away from something that no longer aligns with who we want to be.

Choose integrity when nobody would ever know the difference.

These moments may seem insignificant.

I don't think they are.

I think they are the moments in which we slowly construct ourselves.

Why I'm Writing This

You may be wondering why I'm writing about this.

It's a little different from what I normally share.

The truth is, I'm writing it because right now I am standing at one of those crossroads myself.

I have a decision to make.

One path would be easier.

The other will likely bring discomfort, uncertainty and struggle.

And I haven't written this because I have some profound lesson to teach about making difficult decisions.

I'm writing it because I need the reminder too.

After everything I've experienced, everything I've learned and everything I've tried to become, there is one question I keep coming back to:

When this is over, who do I want to see when I look in the mirror?

Not whether I won.

Not whether everyone agreed with me.

Not whether I avoided discomfort.

But whether I can look at the man staring back at me and know that when the moment came, I acted like the person I've spent all these years trying to become.

Sometimes the hardest journey isn't across a country.

It's the few steps between the person we are and the person we know we need to be.

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